To delete or to not delete

Once upon a time, there was a wonderful feeling,…that was when I got a letter, whether it was in an envelope or folded in a special way that it ended up like a tiny square.

We sent photos by mail, we put photos in a photo album, where you had days you would pull them out and look through them remembering the past and enjoying what life you have had so far, whilst flicking the pages gently so no photo fell out.

You met people for drinks or lunch, you called them on the telephone to have a gossip session or even just have a text conversation. You even recieved invitations by post or hand!

Now it’s tagging, invitations via notification, photos on an insecure electronic device, basic one sentence answers, negativity on screen because you don’t have to actually confront anyone, emotions because someone removed you as a friend, computer hackers and the list goes on.

I thought to myself, hmmmm if I go ahead and take myself off this site, (Facebook) will I get any letters? Probably not. Will I go and meet friends for coffee or lunches? Maybe one day! Will I have an hour long gossip session with certain friends and family? Probably not!

But it’s a risk I’m willing to take. Why do I say risk? Well let me tell you…it’s a risk because it means I’m removing myself from the world, that is now the way communication has gone. It is sad as I miss the way things were before social media took over reality, reality is now social media.

But I still decided to remove myself from the negativity of social media. Will I ever have a pen pal again? We will see, I hope one day I get a letter that I can read and feel so happy while writing a reply, as writing is what makes my life feel most connected.

Now I can be free and connect with life.

7 Amazing facts about your body!

1. Your brain operates on the same amount of power as a 10 watt light bulb.

2. Every 7 years your body completely replaces itself

3. Nerve impulses to and from the brain travel as fast as 250 miles per hour.

4. There are more cells in your body than stars in the galaxy.

5. There are 100,000 miles of blood vessels in an adult human body.

6. The cells in your body react to your thoughts.

7. You are made of stardust.

Want to learn more? Visit http://www.social-consciousness.com

Communicating without making assumptions.

Communication: The Dictionary says;

noun
  1. 1.
    the imparting or exchanging of information by speaking, writing, or using some other medium.
    “television is an effective means of communication”

So……how can you communicate without assuming?  Easy, you can communicate without making assumptions by simply being curious.  Curiosity killed the cat!

Once upon a time when we were young, we wondered about all kinds of things, and we asked an incredible amount of questions all the time.  But somewhere, someday we decided that everyone “must have it, they must understand” more than we did.  We either became numb to life so much so we forgot to ask questions, or we just didn’t  care enough. Do we really get that wrapped up in our own lives?

Do we really think we have some ability to be able to read someone’s mind? Maybe some people can, but the majority of us cannot.  Somehow, we lost that curiosity and that confidence to ask the questions. This makes me sad.

Perfect example, consider this:

Lea:  I’m really tired of doing so much around this house.

Charlie:  Are you saying I don’t help out enough?

Lea:  Yes!  I have to do everything, while you watch and then just leave more stuff around!

Charlie: Well, I’ve had a busy day, and I am going to pick it up!

Lea:  You’ve had a busy day?!  Do you have any idea what my day has been?

Charlie:  Of course i do, but just let me relax, OK I will pick it up later!

Lea:  Fine!  But don’t expect me to pick it up! I am going to bed!

Now let us just stop right there…. and take a look at this conversation.  What if Charlie had asked Lea a question, instead of assuming she was angry that he hadn’t helped by keeping the place tidy?

What if he had asked her about herself?  He could have said, “Why do you say that you’re tired of doing so much around here?” And she could have replied that she is tired after being at work all day, and just wants to relax and not worry about the house anymore, it feels like to her that it was the one thing than she was in control of today.  This would have opened up the conversation to problem-solving, so that Charlie and Lea could have figured out a way for both of them to unwind, and for the home to still look fantastic and tidy to Lea’s standards. If it wasn’t about standards then it would have still let lea feel like something was achievable.  There was no need for anyone to be on the defensive, and they could have got that out in a matter of 5 minutes and still had a pleasant evening together. Easy! Well it should be.

10 Famous quotes by one individual you need in life

1. Imagination is more important than knowledge.

2. Two things are infinite: the universe and human stupidity; and I’m not sure about the universe.

3. The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing.
4. Science without religion is lame, religion without science is blind.
5. The significant problems we have cannot be solved at the same level of thinking with which we created them.
6. Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.
7. Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value.
8. Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.
9. Everything should be made as simple as possible, but not simpler.
10. The most beautiful thing we can experience is the mysterious. It is the source of all true art and science.
Albert Einstein

How to Laugh

1. Love your laugh.

2 Embrace positive laughter.

3. Don’t worry about being funny.

4. Hang out with people who have a sense of humour.

5 Know Your Sense Of Humor. 

6 Look For Humor.

7 Play Pretend.

8 Fake It

9. Adjust your environment.

10. Don’t force the laugh.

<3 Famous words by Laura McMullen <3

Feelings


The word feeling was first used to describe the physical sensation of touch through either experience or perception. But the word can also cause a lot of damage as well.The word can be used to describe experiences other than the physical sensation of touch, such as “a feeling of warmth, hurt, sadness or fright.” In psychology, the word is used for the conscious subjective experience of emotion. And emotion can be where the word feeling can be so mislead.

Perception of the physical world does not necessarily result in a universal reaction among receivers, but varies depending on one’s tendency to handle the situation, how the situation relates to the receiver’s past experiences, and any number of other factors, which is where confusion and or damage can begin.

Feelings are also known as a state of consciousness, such as that resulting from emotions, sentiments or desires.
People buy products or be with people in hopes that this certain product or person will make them feel a certain way either happy, excited or beautiful.
Past events are used in our lives to form plans and ideas in our minds and based on those past experiences we expect our lives to follow a certain script just because of a past event, but it doesn’t mean someone else understands that. They just might see you as being picky or judgemental, annoying or controlling.
When I have an in depth conversation with someone based on my feelings, even though they don’t necessarily understand where the feeling had come from in the first place, it would always be nice to be heard and respected.
Understanding of the past event leading to the feeling will be revealed. So take your time, listen, process, ask questions, then understand, don’t jump to conclusions as this can be dangerous.

The L Word

Love? Life? Lifestyle? Label? Nope it’s Lies!
Before I get into this, I am still me, I am still strong, but I am tired!

My L word…Lies.

Why do we have the ability to lie? I get the cheesy ones, you know the ‘No, you can’t have that it will hurt you.’ ‘No, I can’t come I am ill.’ ‘No, I am to tired.’

But what about the ‘he said’ ‘she said’ kind of lies, the ones that people think will make them feel better or achieve more? Do people just not care about hurting other people? Are they really that much of a coward that they have to make up a silly story to make themselves feel better? To make them feel like they have achieved something? Does it make them feel better? Or does it make them sink a little deeper but they never realise?

I wish that the people I had around me didn’t lie. I wish that people could see that life is so easy, you can live life without lies, you just don’t need to lie to the point of hurting someone or getting yourself into trouble. Why lie and then work so hard not to slip up, to have to spend so much time trying to hide the lie with another lie so it doesn’t unravel…Gosh it’s draining just thinking about it!

I have heard enough lies this year alone from many different people, I have removed enough negative people from my life this year, but they will still keep coming(the lies), I have done nothing to these people, I have no energy for these people. 

I have a loving partner and a beautiful baby girl. My back should hurt from the tiredness from my little family of three, my head should hurt from the tiredness of my day to day schedule, but it doesn’t. My back and my head hurt because of the lies, because of the hurt they have caused. 

I am done…I am tired…I need to be left alone…I crave to be freed from all the negativity…but I just can’t seem to hide for long enough. 

Can’t shake this feeling!

I have always been quite a strong individual, I have always brushed things off, never held a grudge or had enemies, but I feel like I’m changing, I feel like I am becoming someone else.

Since I had my baby girl, for some reason I’m more sensitive to negativity. I want to build up walls to block out the negativity so she won’t get hurt, and so I won’t become affected.

Lately I experienced a new feeling, it was one of  positivity, negativity and nausea all at once, it felt confusing, it felt different but I didn’t mind it. I didn’t understand it it I didn’t mind it.

While sitting there knowing why I was feeling it and not knowing how to fix it, I left it, I didn’t go and distract myself, I didn’t cry or scream, I didn’t become negative or any happier, I just sat there numb, letting it take over me.

I am unsure to how long this feeling will last, I am unsure to where this feeling has come from within me or how my mind and body knew how to create it, I am unsure to what it is trying to tell me. What I do know is that I accept it and I trust it.

In the mean time the ugly situation and the ugly truth to which caused it, will remain in the background, no longer important, no longer drowning me, no longer dragging me down.

I feel like this might be an emotional break through, a break through I have been waiting for to allow myself to let go of the hurtful things and the negative things around me, around us.

We will see what I become. 

Mission Impossible?

Before I became pregnant, I thought to myself, ‘having a baby would just be fun, why do people talk so negatively about it? Why do people say parenting is hard? Surely it’s not!’

And then it was my turn! I had a really good pregnancy but still found it hard. The morning sickness was minimal, but the heart burn was horrendous, nothing worked.

Then when I had hit 32 weeks, I was scared to leave the house, not because of the ‘what if I go into labor while I’m out’, but because of the ‘every time I want to go out Danielle would take action on my bladder.’ So she won, I stayed home as much as I could.

After she was born my life had most certainly changed, more than I had anticipated. I was extremely tired all of the time, I had no time to read, if I did I was to tired, there was no time for movies, online shopping, making food that took time which I loved doing, it was ‘make a sandwich as fast as you can’, it was a mission.

Then there is the dreaded housework…you think to yourself ‘Ok, the other half is at work making the money, so I have to get this housework done so the house is tidy when he gets home’ haha what a joke! I can’t believe I thought I would still get so much done.

I planned all these fun things to make and sell while I was on parental leave and I got out a book and bookmark to start reading which has now been neglected on the coffee table for weeks now!

Last night was the first time in 5 months that we were able to watch a movie in its entirety, no distractions, and what an achievement, yes a silly one but it made me pretty happy. 😀

Now though, I can’t even remember what the extreme tiredness felt like, I can’t remember the taste of the simple sandwich I had made just so I knew I had eaten, I can’t remember the feeling of relief once I finally got a well deserved shower.

What I do remember and will always remember is that it was all worth it. 😊 Times are changing, Danielle is growing and everything is getting easier.

I love my life. 

My Lifetime, My Lifeline