The danger of words

Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.

“You’re fat.” “You’re ugly.” “Is that the best you can do?” “You suck.” “You’re stupid.” “You’re lazy.” “You know nothing.” These are all just words, but people have a tendancy to use them to hurt other people.

Do bullies bully because they were bullied or are they just self concious and it makes them feel better?

I was only bullied once, well to my face, and that was when I was in Intermediate. One of my parents decided to give me a mullet (hairstyle) yes it was years ago but why? Why didn’t people think I either didn’t know or had a problem with it? My parents obviously didn’t know it “wasn’t cool” but kids still chose to use it against me, maybe it was because they knew I didn’t like it? Maybe it was because it lowered my confidence so I was more vulnerable? But the teasing even though only verbal still hurt.

You hear so much negativity, and everyone has their judgements but do we really need to voice them? Probably not, but we do anyway.

Besides bullying I think the worst is actually liars, the people that tell lies knowing full well it’s just not true but not having enough respect to be honest to themselves let alone others. Why lie? Truthful conversations are so much more interesting and more productive. 

I look at my 5 month old girl and I wonder  how long I will be able to protect her for, how long she will believe me that she is great, will she come to me if she is bullied? Will she fall for what others think of her and try to be someone she is not to please others? How can I protect her from all of the insecure people out there?

Do I think she will be bullied? Well no of course not. But do I think others will find a part of her they don’t agree with and use it negatively?…probably.

The danger of words can end people’s lives, turn their day upside down, put them into hiding, make them fail when they didn’t need to, change the way they see themselves.

Why can’t we just be nice? Why can’t we accept each individual for who they are? Why do we think we have the right to put someone else down? The sad thing is, it will never stop.

Just live your life the way you want to, don’t let anyone tell you who or what you are, we all want respect and we all want to be accepted. So respect and accept everyone for who they are. And there may not be so much negativity. 

5 thoughts on “The danger of words”

  1. Ugh bullying. It’s one of my biggest fears with my baby growing up but probably unavoidable. I figure the best way to deal with it will be to keep the communication lines open and make them aware that there are nasty people out there but also not to be bullies themselves

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